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The simple explanation:
The law of attraction = what you think is what you get.
In general, if you think affirmative thoughts, you’ll get wonderful results. You’ll be amazed at the positive changes you can make in your life when you employ the law of attraction through some specific but simple techniques. It has failed for many people only because they don’t really know how the mechanisms under the hood work. Knowing that will give you the assurance and patience to take the right steps. This page is dedicated to helping you put the “law of attraction” into action.
Some people will refuse to believe something so simple can actually work until they know how it works. OK, I understand. Here are a couple of ways it works. You’ll find others later on.
1. When you’re in a negative loop, such as “I’m in debt, I’m in debt,” your mind is preoccupied with that thought. It’s as if your neurons have burned a path of least resistance, and so the concern about your debt takes most of your waking hours. You’re too occupied with your loop to be creative. If, you start to look at what you already do have, a nice pair of shoes, a dog who adores you, a warm home, your negative loop is interrupted, and you can start thinking of ways out of the debt. (By the way, if you are looking for ways out of debt – that actually work – you can look all throughout this website). You may also be depressed when you focus on the negative, and people who are depressed can make weird, ineffective choices.
2. When you stay focused on what you want (not on what you don’t want), you start making small, but important decisions that will move you in the right direction.
3. You may wonder what would happen if everyone got what they wanted. What if lots of people became rich? Would that mean that everyone else would get poorer? No, in fact the opposite happens. When you’re rich, you buy things. The salespeople get commissions, the stores and factories make money, and are able to pay more to their workers.
Actually, you don’t have to know how it works. Just have faith that it does, and the law of attraction will work for you.
Let’s say you want a new convertible. People familiar with the law of attraction may suggest you put a picture of that convertible on your bathroom mirror, and start wishing for it. I know that seems rather simplistic, and for this example it is, but it actually works.
Here’s how it once worked for me – I wanted a Land Rover back in my early twenties when I had very little money and certainly couldn’t qualify for a car loan. Back then, a brand new one was $4,000. I went to several car dealers anyway, just to look and wish some more. I discovered a dusty used one in a dealer’s back lot that actually still ran, for $400 – quite a surprise. It wasn’t exactly what I wanted, but it was a Land Rover that I could afford. I drove it home, and it overheated on the way. $90 for a new radiator. That took a week to save up for, and another week to order. Then I had a Land Rover that actually ran fairly well, but it looked terrible. Although now I was really quite happy with the one I had, I wanted a good-looking Land Rover. I had a friend who worked in a body shop who could get me a paint job for $200. I could pick any color I wanted, so I chose a deep metalflake green, with black trim. A couple of months later, I had the car painted, it actually looked better than new Land Rovers in my opinion, since you couldn’t get them in that color. Thinking others may feel the same way, I put an ad in the newspaper, and sold my $400 Land Rover for $2800! It didn’t take long to come up with another $1200, and I got my brand new Land Rover, paid for in cash! OK, you’re probably wondering how I got that last $1200. Here’s what happened: One day the transmission in my $400 Land Rover broke down. Back then, Land Rovers were rare and I couldn’t buy the parts I needed anywhere, so I bought a whole used Land Rover, one that was crashed, so I could take the transmission for my car. Then, I sold the windshield, the wheels, the seats, axles, all sorts of other parts. After paying to dispose of the remains, I had well over $1,000. Now I realize you may not be able to do what I did, you may not even know exactly what an axle is, let alone how to sell one, but I’ll bet you have marketable skills, also. You probably have skills that you don’t yet realize can bring big positive changes to your life. This website will help you leverage what you already have.
Just in case you’re still not understanding how I do things, and how you can too, let me cite one more example. This one happened just last year: I started a bookstore in an era when people simply don’t do that. Independent bookstores have been badly hurt by online book venues such as Amazon.com. But, I felt like it would be a fun project to set up a small store, where I could greet the public, and sell books. So I did it. I did a few things differently, including having a back-room operation where I also sold books online. But after 4 months, I lost interest. (I used to think losing interest in good projects was one of my bigger flaws, but now I’m realizing it has always been an advantage.) So I sold the store. I picked a price that was three times higher than what I had invested, but my wife stopped me. She said I didn’t realize that it was already making enough money to suit a lot of possible buyers, just not enough money to suit me. She said I should quadruple the price. I placed an ad. I sold the business four days after placing the ad for twelve times the original investment.
In the next few paragraphs, I’m going to teach you how to use the law of attraction (and other techniques) to truly get what you want.
Follow These Three Steps, And You Can Have Anything!
1. The first trick is to figure out exactly what you want. Oddly, almost everyone thinks they can answer that question without hesitation, but upon deeper reflection, it can be quite confusing. In time, you may discover things about yourself that you never knew. A woman with a degree in psychology was looking for something more meaningful than her current job of writing psych evaluations for an insurance company. She couldn’t really get a handle on it, until one day she discovered she’d like to work with children. She burst into tears upon making that discovery. She had never given any thought to the idea of working with people other than adults until then.
How do you know what you want? Try this trick: Ask a friend to ask you these specific questions:
What do you want (or what would you like)?
Where, when, and with whom would you like to have it?
What will having that do for you?
How will you know when you have it?
How will it affect your friends and family?
What will you loose that you value when you have it?
Have your friend repeat these questions in any sequence several times over the course of an hour or so, and you may be surprised how much your answers change.
Repeat this technique with a few friends over the course of a week or two.
2. Work out a plan of action. Pretty much anything you want to do can be attained in a succession of little, tiny steps. Nothing needs to be difficult. Even designing an action plan can be easy. Especially when you know you don’t have to follow it exactly. Let the universe help guide you. If you make a plan that’s about right, with adjustments as things happen, you’ll get to where you’re going. An example:
I know a couple who were struggling to make their organic bakery profitable. One night their house burned down. You might think: Surely that’s a setback. But they knew about the law of attraction. They knew that what seems like a negative event can often be perceived as positive, and in fact becomes a positive event. They basically had a party in the street as the firemen were putting out the pile of rubble that was their home. They moved into a teepee on a friend’s farm for the summer, paying no rent, and before winter they had found a better, furnished home that was closer to their bakery and lower rent than what they were paying before. Then, a couple of months later, the merchant next door made a little mistake and burned their bakery down! They did not have proper insurance. Do you think they worried? No, they didn’t! Within another month or so, they rented a new commercial building, bought a bunch of second-hand bakery equipment, and were back in business. But, this time they picked up a better location. This time, there was room for their customers to park, and their sign could be seen on the main thoroughfare. Their financial worries were over!
3. Be open to receiving. One of the best things you can do is to appreciate what you already have. That puts you in a mood and position in which new things can come to you. Without that, you may not recognize the opportunities when they come up. Like the joke:
A man was caught in a flood, and had to climb up on the roof of his house. But, he knew God would take care of him. A helicopter came by, and lowered a harness. The man refused it, saying, “no, God will rescue me.” Another one came by, and again he refused it. So he drowned and went to heaven. One of the first things he did when he got to Heaven was ask God, “Why didn’t you rescue me?” And God said, “T tried. What do you think those helicopters were?”
And, it helps to be patient. There’s a story about a gold mine in California. The owners dug and dug, but came up with no gold. So, they sold the mine for nearly nothing. The new owners dug three more feet, and hit the biggest vein of gold yet discovered.
And, it helps to have some guidance. For instance, if you tell your plan to all your friends, and then you get a bit lazy, they’ll remind you, and get you back on track. And, your friends will tell their friends, and benefits can come seemingly out of nowhere. This is a very big part of the effectiveness of the law of attraction.
30 years ago, I owned a bicycle shop. I wanted a metal lathe for the shop which is a very expensive tool. I told people, and one day, a 12-year-old boy came in the shop and said, “My grandmother has one.” I figured it was probably a wood lathe, a much less expensive tool that I couldn’t use, but I phoned her anyway. Her husband had passed, and she just wanted to be rid of it. It was a metal lathe in perfect condition, with a wide array of attachments.
Trust, be patient, relax, have fun, live a good life! – Jeff
Just follow these five somewhat surprising steps to get whatever you want. This is not ‘law of attraction.’ These steps really work, as long as you actually take them.
1. Get clear on exactly what you want. One of the best ways is to have someone, a family member, a friend, or a trained professional, ask questions such as:
“What would you like?”
“What will having that do for you?”
“How will you know when you have it?”
“When you have it, what might you lose that you value?”
These can be asked in any sequence, repeated, and customized as needed. In a remarkable number of cases these seemingly simple questions can be nearly magical, letting you discover that what you really want might not be what you thought you wanted.
2. Be willing to color outside the lines. Billions of people want the same things as you. If they take the usual approaches, they’ll get the usual results. Oh, sure, some get lucky, but why depend on luck, when there are proven ways to get where you want to go?
One of the best methods for success for many situations is a mild degree of positive eccentricity. Experiment with doing things somewhat differently than others, and you will get different results. Of course, you’ll want to learn what works and what doesn’t in your field of interest, but then see how you can make adjustments, sometimes unexpected ones, and come out way ahead of the pack.
3. Many myths exist regarding confidence. It is not what people think it is. With confidence you can create great outcomes, yet it is not something to be had and you do not have to wait until you have it. Confidence is gained as you go. It is an acquired skill, built through practice.
The first thing to know about confidence is that you might not be ready. On the other hand, you’ll never be ready unless you gain some experience. Dive in and do what you fear, but do it on a small scale at first. Make a presentation to three family members, then a group of six friends, then a group of twenty, then a hundred, before you do a global webinar.
Once you have had enough experience, keep in mind that what you are doing is beneficial, and that the recipients want it. When I worked as a performer, I had no stage fright. That’s because I was thinking about how my audience would enjoy the show, rather than what could go wrong. Sometimes things did go wrong, but I just wrapped my comedy around those things, and they actually added to the enjoyment. With practice, you’ll learn to use mistakes to your advantage.
Perhaps you are in sales. If you have a product that you don’t believe in, you ought to find something else. When you absolutely know that your product is good, you’ll want your buyers to have it for their own good. That attitude is contagious!
4. Patience. With this one seemingly simple attribute, everyone can become a millionaire, as you’ll discover in a moment.
Most people drop out before they reach their goals. A few setbacks, disappointments, or embarrassing moments, and they pack up. Like the story of the three gold miners. They dug and dug, but gave up a little too soon. They sold their claim. Three feet past where they quit digging was the biggest vein of gold ever found in California.
J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter, was rejected by 12 publishers over a long period before one took a chance on her story.
An appliance repairman for Sears earned just a notch above minimum wage. But, he put 20% of every paycheck in the bank. He lived in a small apartment, ate frugally, and drove old cars. When he had $10,000 in the bank, he decided to learn about investing. He continued working for Sears for twenty years. Then he retired with millions of dollars. Now, he pays cash for a brand new Jaguar every few years and has free time to pursue his passions. There was no luck involved in his financial success. This is something anyone can do.
5. Stay focused, motivated, and on-track. This is the most important of these five steps. One of the best ways to do it is have a friend, coworker, family member, or better yet, a trained coach, keep you reminded of your goals.
One of the best ways to get someone’s fullest attention while showing great respect for that person at the same time is to ask, “Can I get your opinion on this?” The this would be something in the person’s area of expertise, or something of mutual interest. If you don’t believe how powerful this is, try thinking about how you would feel if someone asked that of you. Taking it a step further, if you ask that question in front of other people, it raises the person’s esteem.
“Yesterday is HISTORY, Tomorrow a MYSTERY and TODAY is a GIFT; that’s why they call it the PRESENT.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
There’s something in human nature that prevents most of us from taking events that can happen in the distant future seriously. Therefore, most of us eat junky food, some of us smoke cigarettes, drink too much, and so on. What can you do to remind yourself you’ll be old someday, and you’d like to be healthy when the time comes?